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How do you know if they love you so? It’s not in their kiss, says Match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor
First of all, look deeply into their eyes. Notice if their pupils are dilated because if they are, they’re very attracted to you. Sexual desire – like fear – stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, one of the effects of which is wide, opened pupils. It can also relax the muscles around the eyes, giving them a softer “doe-eyed” appearance. Aww.
Then hold your partner’s gaze for four seconds or more – body-language research has shown that a long “eye meet” is only tolerated when a person feels affectionate towards a partner, otherwise it is perceived as an aggression action.
When people are with someone they are fiercely attracted to, they unconsciously shift position so their hips are facing towards them. A US study conducted by David Givens and Timothy Perper revealed that lovers practice “total body synchrony”. Eh? In short, “they pivot or swivel until their shoulders become aligned, their bodies face-to-face…” Hmm, maybe this explains why dancing partners keep falling for each other on Strictly. But it’s more than just facing your lover -- couples in love often mirror each other’s actions, or move in tandem; specifically, they follow each other without question, or do not verbally acknowledge gestures between each other (for example, they could take a sip of your drink without asking, or you’d sit next to them without asking permission).
Does it look great? Great! Being in love stimulates people to improve their appearance so a new haircut can be a sign of attraction. Does it look messy? Better! Repeated grooming gestures are another body-language giveaway of attraction. Women will twirl, stroke and play with their hair in the presence of their dream man, as a subconscious, “Please God let me look OK,” message. Men, in contrast, will often raise a hand to flatten their hair around women they adore: not only is it grooming, but it also gives the impression of increased height.
“I could have danced all night,” isn’t an exaggeration – people in love DO have more energy than the uninfatuated. Anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher ran brain scans on people who confessed to being “madly in love” and found activity in the limbic system of the brain due to a molecule called phenylethylamine (PEA) which is released when we form an intense emotional bond. This action caused “feelings of elation, exhilaration, and euphoria,” says Fisher. This might explain why people in love never sleep either, preferring to spend all night Googling their beloved.
When we enter the “attachment” stage of love – the slightly calmer state we reach after the initial lust and infatuation have receded – increased levels of a hormone called Oxytocin cause us to trust our partner. Oxytocin (also known as the bonding hormone) is released during sexual contact and is responsible for boosting feelings of affection and togetherness, and its effect on trust let us do things like spend the night together and make love. Does your partner take your word for things, let you borrow their car and not triple-check where you go at night? Then they’re in deep, baby. Enjoy!
Find out if she is single
Make eye contact as much as you can
. Try to get her to know that you notice her.
. Have witty conversations with the girl.
Know the latest fashions, trends, music, movies, and TV shows
. Pick up a newspaper or a magazine and read through all of the sections. Get a general knowledge of what is going on in today's teen world so you will have a lot to talk about.
Make friends with everyone, especially girl friends, but DON'T flirt with every girl you see
. Girls might get discouraged and think you like someone else, and then they will stop trying.
Be the guy who everyone sits around and listens to
. Be the all around guy. Be able to talk to the goths, jocks, popular kids, geeks, and everyone else. She will feel way more comfortable around you knowing that you are cool with everyone you know, instead of being the geek in the back of the classroom who has no friends.
Find out what you both have in common, and make sure that she knows that you two have the same likes and dislikes
Make her feel really comfortable around you
. Make sure that she knows that she is able to come to you with any problems that she might be having in her life. Also, make sure that she knows that not only can you listen to her problems, but you can also solve her problems, or maybe at least just come up with ideas to help her solve them. Be warned, however. Offering advice is one thing, but girls don't talk about their problems to someone because they want that person to try and solve them all. They want someone who will listen, first and foremost.
Now here's the big step, say "I like you" first and then ask her out to a movie, or to lunch
. If she feels the same way that you feel about her, then she will most likely say yes. Girls usually think that the guy will make the first move, so ask her out whenever you feel like she's close to you.
Don't let anyone dominate you or do something which is really gonna show you below the mark
Be yourself and show her who you really are
. Note one thing that every girl has different thinking so try to understand her, and don't over limit
sincere with her.the truth is if you like yourself everyone will like
's not a easy task to attract everyone.you've to be yourself in every moment of your life.the mistake which every man make is when he saw his lover he will be decent.so other will think that because of his lover he is behaving like this.our weapon to attract girls are be with her side not too much over and be a good gentle man.
Some times when you find she is struggling to get back from other activities, try to guide her by completely thinking about things from her mind . This will help her to read and understand your mind to great extent.
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